Your interview with Tom Cruise is an evocative tour de force. You were criticized, admonished and belittled. Is it possible for someone to be condescending squared? You maintained total composure and continued to elicit additional information and opinion. You aroused in him the passion he feels about this subject. You weren’t critical but you shared from your experience enough to hopefully leave the viewer with the idea – Matt seems reasonable and Tom seems over the top.
Imagine yourself sitting in an emergency room as part of your training to be a psychiatrist. Tom Cruise is brought in by two sheriff’s deputies. His family has gone to a mental illness court and convinced a judge that there is sufficient evidence of a mental disorder and that he could be potentially dangerous to self or others. As a psychiatric resident in training it is your job to evaluate his mental status and decide whether he needs to be committed. During the interview he tells you that you are "glib". He says, "you don’t understand, I do". He tells you he doesn’t agree with psychiatry and never has. He generalizes that antidepressants and stimulants are antipsychotics. He says, "you don’t know the history, I do and there’s no such thing as a chemical imbalance". He tells you that you are irresponsible when you say that some people have been helped by these types of medication.
You, of course know that religion is based on faith. You accept it or you don’t. Philosophy is based on logic – it invites argument and discussion. Science is based on hypotheses/theories and invites data. If new data comes out that doesn’t support the hypotheses/theory further careful research confirms the new data – you modify the theory. An example of science is the blood pressure range that is considered normal. When new data found that systolic pressure of 130-140, or diastolic of 80-90 was associated with increased heart disease the standard for blood pressure was lowered.
Covey talks about principles that are timeless and unassailable. He compares these principles to the direction north. If you and I are lost and we disagree as to which way is north – one of us may be more persuasive or passionate, or we could take a vote but that wouldn’t change the fact that north is north.
An example of an unarguable principle is that prejudice and racism is wrong. Harming someone because of their color, religion, or sexual preference has always been and will always be wrong. Is it possible that I’m wrong? No, I feel passionate about that – not because it’s science but because it is an ethical principle. Tom Cruise treats religion, philosophy, and science as though they all follow the same rules.
Cruise says that psychiatry is pseudoscience, that medication "masks the problem" and that postpartum depression and other mental health problems can be better solved with vitamins and exercise.
Go back to our emergency room scene. You ask Mr. Cruise, "is it possible that you’re wrong?" He would of course reply in an agitated voice, "absolutely not"! An opinion or belief that is adamantly defended as a fact is a delusion.
Now you have a patient who is agitated and delusional. Your next question, "is he likely to do harm to himself or others?" He’s a celebrity. He has a huge fan base. He seems knowledgeable and speaks with authority. There may be many people who might think, "he’s right", and stop their medication. The consequences could be harmful or even deadly.
As a responsible physician your only choice is to hospitalize him. He would obviously refuse medication – especially antipsychotics. He accuses you of being part of a plot to control the world with medication (Brave New World). You know medication would help him. You also know that he will sue you if you force him to take it. You don’t know what to do. A nurse approaches you – "Dr. Lauer, there is a mob of people surrounding the hospital. They have come to set Tom free. They are threatening to break in. They are threatening you".
You decide, "this is not worth it!" He won’t let me treat him anyway. You write the order to let him go. His fans cheer. The crowd dissipates. Fortunately they didn’t know which car was yours so it’s still in one piece. You sit quietly pondering your day. Suddenly you have an epiphany. You go to the director of training. You say, "I am resigning from my psychiatry residency. I’ve decided to become a television news show anchorman!"
P.S. I don’t think he’s really psychotic, but too much narcissism where intelligence and accurate information would serve him better.
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Tom Cruise’s self-serving tirade was shameful as was the medias lack of responsible reaction to it. FYI Tom’s real name is Maypoter – an old Dublin (Ireland) name. He is an actor and pseudo-religious promoter. I believe that he may have been not so subtly recruiting for his churchs mental health centers. He is not a doctor, pyschoanalyst, or psychiatrist. To qualify to be one of those requires 12 years of college and practice. People with mental illness need positive reinforcement and support – their illness is as potentially terminal as cancer or AIDS.
Tom’s opinions are interesting and amusing – like watching a monkey playing with a loaded gun – in a general way but to listeners with active mental illness they could have been and can be fatal. People look up to Mr. Cruise and his effect could have been to have people not get help, committ suicide, homocide, stop taking meds, question their mental illness and stop treatment.
Actors are actors. Period. Their celebrity does not give them any credentials other than to act – they are no experts in mental health, economic theory, running the country etc. I wish I could laugh at Tom’s babbling but I can’t. His irresponsibility is mind boggling. The consequences – like the monkey with the gun – far reaching. Shame on him.
Steve Crain,
I have tried responding to you before, but
it did not get posted. I am very interested in
your story about your son and the Denton County
inability and ignorance in helping with substance
abuse, as I tried to help a young man who had no
insurance there to try and get into a treatment
facility. I was also wondering if you have read
a book entitled “Poisoned Love” by Caitlin Rother
(check out pages 126-127 where this “Narconon” is mentioned. Have you thought about going to the
News Papers to try and get an investigative reporter to do a story?
Nicole
I think my wife Joy may have already responded on this matter; I know she was working something up, and heard part of it, but do not see it here. Tom Cruise fan or not, there is a central issue here that is far more deep than these comments. My son died two years ago, at the age of 19, as a direct result of sufferring from Bipolar disorder ,associated (probably) substance abuse, and from an unbelievable failure of the Texas (especially Denton County) Mental Health Care system combined, with a Keystone Cops tragedy of his emergency treatment. But that’s another story.
Along his path of attempted recovery entered the organization Narconon, a mental health/substance abuse system with numerous national and international “Treatment Facilities”. Although they will deny vehemetly any connection to Scientology, they do admit following the teachings of L. Ron Hubbard, the founder of Scientology. Also, anyone with 15 minutes and an internet connection can prove to themselves beyond any doubt that Narconon is not only a directly controlled subsidiary of the Church of Scientology , but also serves as a conduit for the church to brainwash (in the absolute most definite definition of the term) typically young, suffering people into a lifetime commitment to their “religion”. The more you read acout the “Church”, the more obvious it becomes that it is truly a cult, every bit as scary and cynical as Jim Jones and others, but far more dangerous because of their strength, size and power. One of their favorite and most fundamental methods is utilized both in their “recovery” program in Narconon and if one just happens to walk in off the street and ask to become a member. That metod, trying to be very brief, involves confessing your “deeds” to a member or staffer. In some ways not too different from a Catholic confession or a therapist or an AA meeting. However, the similarity ends there. These Black bits of information are kept on file forever to be used as and when needed as a tool to coerce. Of all the foregoing, I am certain. It is also widely held that there are many cases of celebrities or other significant social figures, who have fallen into this trap and are condemned to completely follow the directives of the Church or risk their deepest personal demons being exposed,and losing their money, fame, and career. Plenty of at least circumstantial evidence exists to support this. It may well be that poor Tom Cruise is to be pitied as a talented and attractive actor who dances to the tune of an unseen puppet master. If you ever watch an interviewer ask him about the Church, watch how his whole demeanor and outward personability instantly changes like a cold blast just entered the studio!
Luckily our brush with the group was brief and ultimately uneventful other than unnecessary detour on what proved to be a failed attempt to regain/save his life; but in only a few short days we saw all that we’ve later read come to pass exactly as was told. If you ever want to get really deep into the subject, there is an excellent book still available. I would have to check , but I believe the title is “A Piece of Blue Sky”, an unblinking expose of the Church, whose title was taken from a remark from Hubbard to one of his early lieutenents in which he was overheard to say, in reference to founding his new religion: “Let’s sell them a Piece of Blue Sky”. And that they did, becoming extremely wealthy in the process and creating a monster that now has such a life of its own, that the word “cult” is probably woefully inadequate. Maybe “Institutionalized Super Cult” would at least come closer.This is no paranoid ranting by an admittedly heart-broken father. These people are for real, and they play for keeps. I never want to miss an opportunity to pass along my knowledge and experience so that others will be spared.
I have no problem with hearing any actor state
that it is his opinion that “bla, bla, bla.” I
have a big problem with anyone getting on national T.V. and stating that their view
is the only correct view—period! And, I think
Tom’s “up on the furniture, highschool crush, love fest” is a little much. Makes me wonder who he is trying so hard to convince! Gosh Tom, I hope you’re not getting manic on us. (and that
was supposed to be post partum depression, but
then again, I have that non-existant ADD….)
A very interesting reading! I really enjoy your analysis of current events from the mental perspective! I do wonder about the age difference between the two (Tom soon will be 43 and Katie is 26). When you get to a generation difference in age (i.e., he is theoretically old enough to be her father), you have to wonder. I personally think it is a simple case of infatuation. Surely Miss Holmes “sees” Tom Cruise as a movie star through the roles he has played (like the rest of us) and does not yet know “Tom the real person”. I believe it takes longer than two months to know someone well enough to make them your life partner! -Keith-
I sent a letter to ET asking if the Church of
Scientology has any “auditing programs” for
delusions of granduer and if not, would the Church be interested in atleast offering a
scholorship to Tom for medical school. I also
sent Tom’s site a little note asking him to concern himself with more humble acts, such as
gaining public awareness of the starving children
he is working with. In the meantime, I offered that he perhaps should spend any spare time tutoring his new and naive YOUNG soon to be 3rd
wife, and pray like hell that If he ever does
father a child, the mother does not have post natal depression! I doubt he’ll ever get the
message—figuratively and literally! Just goes
to show that fanatics come in every religion–(even the ones with the word Science attached!)